In one part of the movie, a man (presumably in his late 20s/early 30s)is trying to find his perfect match and finds a girl he thinks is cute but he finds out she is vegan and decides not to ask her out because as he put it "where could I ever take her out to eat? Too much work." and moves on to the next girl. Anyways, I felt this twinge in my stomach because I believe his feelings and his statement ring true- that perhaps a woman with "food issues" IS too much work and not worth pursuing. I wonder if that is how others perceive me? Do my "food issues" due to celiac disease and type 1 diabetes take me out of the running? Will no man pursue a lifelong commitment with me because of these things? I know I've brought up my questions about being loved as someone with medical conditions in a previous blog where I blatantly wondered if I could be considered lovable.
This all stems from my own embarrassment/insecurity from having these illnesses, and recognizing the hassle they will cause the person I could have a relationship with and/or marry someday, even though I know these diagnoses are not my fault but still I feel a little like damaged goods. And watching that scene in the Hallmark Channel movie made me think that even more! Why would they joke about it if it weren't true?
I'm just beginning to believe that finding a person who will see past my diseases, or "food issues" is just not a big possibility.
At least I have my dog and she loves me no matter what <3
Thoughts/opinions? I would really appreciate everyone's raw thoughts on this.
I'll give you my experience from BOTH sides of this issue. In high school, I dated a girl for six months that had type 1 diabetes. I did not have it, but knew a little about it. It never bothered me, I was more curious than anything. I always remembered whenever I kissed her, her blood sugar would skyrocket. We both thought it was funny at the time, but nothing about her diabetes ever bothered me.
ReplyDeleteWhen I got diagnosed with some form of diabetes back in 2000, and about 4 years after we dated, she was the first person I went to for advice and comfort, and I'm glad she was there to help me out.
Then I met the woman I would later marry in 2007. I didn't tell her I had diabetes on our first date, not because I wanted to keep it a secret, but I just didn't want to lay all my cards out on the table just yet. Then on our second date, I tried to take my gear to the bathroom to take a shot, but there was no room and I kinda had to tell her about it when we got back to the car, because I had to take a bolus. She was more interested in it than anything and wasn't freaked out at all. When things got more serious with her, she was there for me as I transitioned to the pump.
Bottom line, if someone likes you, they will be interested in all of you, even your health challenges. They will want to help out if they can. If they don't want to have anything to do with it, or if it freaks them out, you're probably not with a good dating material anyway. So I think you have nothing to worry about. I don't know you, but you seem to be intelligent from your writings, and you ain't bad looking. I'm sure you'll meet the perfect person made just for you.
Preston thank you so much for sharing your story with me. And thanks for the vote of confidence :) Your support really does help. I think you should write a post on dating with disease, only from a person with experiences' point of view (versus mine, with NO experience!) I would read it!!
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